The Great Parenting Show (Review)
Today I was given the opportunity to listen to an interview on the www.GreatParentingShow.com , hosted by, Jacqueline Green, BA
Parenting Educator. The show is full of parenting advice from leading parenting experts on many different topics.
I listened in to an interview with Shelly Lefkoe, from the Lefkoe Institute , on the topic : How to Get Your Children to Cooperate Without Destroying their Self-Esteem. I fully enjoyed the interview and really like her teaching. Many things she said, I already try to do with my kiddos but I sure did learn a lot too!
Here are some highlights that I found important :
1. I like how Lefkoe said, “You are your child’s expert.”
2. Lefkoe was asked by Jacqueline, “What is the number one problem facing parents today?”
She said, “Technology.” They focused in on how it is an issue for the family as a whole. She talked about how parents need to model social behaviors for their children. Meaning, if your kids are talking to you and require your attention, stop texting , talking and get of the computer! I do agree with this and check myself once in a while that I do not behave this way—I am not perfect. Parents do need to stop being so distracted and pay attention.
3. Focus on how to help your children do things in a way the will empower them.
4. Don’t push your kids to do things that have nothing to do to with the value of their lives. For example, don’t just show up at soccer games and yell at your child if he/she doesn’t score a goal. This just shows a parents lack of confidence and is a bad reflection on yourself.
5. Celebrate failures in the way you celebrate success as if you do not fail a lot you will be mediocre. Leftkoe’s example was that her family celebrated a swim meet loss. Her daughter practiced and tried very hard but lost and that’s okay because she tried.
She said her husband said to her daughter, “you are valuable , important, good enough competent , and capable person who had a lost swim. Your worth in value is not how fast you go across the pool.” Wow…. That is AWESOME. I used this with my daughter and her failing Math grade and it made her perk up. The cool thing, is that it’s true.
6. Ask yourself , “what are my expectations of this child? As a parent or individual do I excel at everything I do?” Ummmm… No…
7. Don’t assume and ask good questions. For example, on a failing class : what is it about the class that is difficult? Are you bored? Are you challenged? Is something bothering you about the teacher or classmates?
I am very thankful to have had this opportunity as I got some great tips that I can use to make my family life better.
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